type-sharetwitter-text-before']); } else { $twitter_share_text_before = ""; } if(!empty($layer['settings']['link-type-sharetwitter-text-after'])){ $twitter_share_text_after = str_replace(array("%title%","%excerpt%"), array($title,$excerpt), $layer['settings']['link-type-sharetwitter-text-after']); } else { $twitter_share_text_after = ""; } $twitter_share_text = $twitter_share_text_before.$twitter_share_url.$twitter_share_text_after; $text = ''.$text.''; break; case 'likepost': if(!empty($this->post['ID'])) $text = ''.$text.''; //javascript-link else $text = ''; break; } if($link_to !== 'none') $do_display = true; //set back to true if a link is set on layer $text = trim($text); //check for special styling coming from post option and set css to the queue if(isset($layer['id'])) $this->set_meta_element_changes($layer['id'], $unique_class); $post_class = (!isset($post['ID'])) ? '' : ' eg-post-'.$post['ID']; if($base->text_has_certain_tag($text, 'a') && !$do_ignore_styles){ //check if a tag exists, if yes, class will be set to a tags and not the wrapping div, also the div will receive the position and other stylings // && @$layer['settings']['source'] !== 'text' if($is_woo_cats && strpos($text, 'class="') !== false || $is_woo_button || $is_filter_cat && strpos($text, 'class="') !== false){ //add to the classes instead of creating own class attribute if it is woocommerce cats AND a class can be found $text = str_replace('class="', 'class="'.$unique_class.$post_class.$lb_class.' ', $text); }elseif($is_html_source && strpos($text, 'class="') !== false){ $text = str_replace('', '', $text); //moved to more global css generation process @version: 2.0 //$this->add_css_wrap[$unique_class]['a']['display'] = $do_display; //do_display defines if we should write display: block; //$this->add_css_wrap[$unique_class]['a']['full'] = $do_full; //do full styles (for categories and tags separator) $unique_class .= '-a'; } if($do_ignore_styles) $unique_class = 'eg-'.esc_attr($this->handle).'-nostyle-element-'.$layer['id']; //replace all the normal shortcodes if(function_exists('qtrans_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage')){ //use qTranslate $text = qtrans_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage($text); }elseif(function_exists('ppqtrans_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage')){ //use qTranslate plus $text = ppqtrans_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage($text); }elseif(function_exists('qtranxf_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage')){ //use qTranslate X $text = qtranxf_useCurrentLanguageIfNotFoundUseDefaultLanguage($text); } $text = do_shortcode($text); if($special_item == 'true' && $special_item_type == 'line-break'){ //line break element echo ' '."\n"; }elseif(trim($text) !== ''){ //}elseif(!empty($text)){ $use_tag = $base->getVar($layer['settings'], 'tag-type', 'div'); echo ' <'.$use_tag.' class="esg-'.$class.$post_class.$video_play.$ajax_class.' '.$hideunderClass.$unique_class.$transition.'"'.$ajax_attr.$transition_split.$delay.$hideunderHTML; echo ($demo == 'custom') ? $demo_element_type : ''; echo $data_transition_transition . '>'; echo $text; echo ''."\n"; } } /** * Retrieve the value of post elements */ public function get_post_value($handle, $separator, $function, $meta, $catmax = '-1', $taxonomy = ""){ $base = new Essential_Grid_Base(); $text = ''; /* 2.1.5 category max option */ $adjustMax = false; if( in_array( $handle, array( 'cat_list','tag_list','taxonomy') ) ) { if(!empty($catmax) && $catmax !== '-1' && is_numeric($catmax) && intval($catmax) > 0) { $catmax = intval($catmax); $adjustMax = true; } } switch($handle){ //Post elements case 'post_id': $text = $base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''); break; case 'post_url': $post_id = $base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''); $text = get_permalink($post_id); break; case 'title': $text = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_title', ''); break; case 'caption': case 'excerpt': $text = trim($base->getVar($this->post, 'post_excerpt')); if(empty($text)){ //strip essential grid shortcode here $text = do_shortcode($base->strip_essential_shortcode($base->getVar($this->post, 'post_content'))); $text = preg_replace("/]*>(.*?)<\\/style>/s", "", $text); $text = preg_replace("/]*>(.*?)<\\/script>/s", "", $text); } $text = strip_tags($text); //,"

" break; case 'meta': $m = new Essential_Grid_Meta(); $text = $m->get_meta_value_by_handle($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''),$meta); break; case 'likespost': $post_id = $base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''); if(!empty($post_id)){ $count = get_post_meta($post_id, "eg_votes_count", 0); if(!$count) $count[0] = 0; if(is_array($count)){ $text = ''.$count[0].''; } } else{ $text = ''; } break; case 'alias': $text = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_name'); break; case 'content': $text = apply_filters('the_content', $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_content')); break; case 'link': $text = get_permalink($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', '')); break; case 'date': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = $base->convert_post_date($postDate); break; case 'date_day': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = date('dd',strtotime($postDate)); break; case 'date_month': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = date('m',strtotime($postDate)); break; case 'date_month_abbr': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = date('M',strtotime($postDate)); break; case 'date_year': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = date('Y',strtotime($postDate)); break; case 'date_year_abbr': $postDate = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_date_gmt"); $text = date('y',strtotime($postDate)); break; case 'date_modified': $dateModified = $base->getVar($this->post, "post_modified"); $text = $base->convert_post_date($dateModified); break; case 'author_name': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $text = get_the_author_meta('display_name', $authorID); break; case 'author_posts': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $text = get_author_posts_url($authorID ); break; case 'author_profile': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $meta_value = get_the_author_meta('url', $authorID); break; case 'author_avatar_32': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $meta_value = get_avatar( $authorID, 32); break; case 'author_avatar_64': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $meta_value = get_avatar( $authorID, 64); break; case 'author_avatar_96': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $meta_value = get_avatar( $authorID, 96); break; case 'author_avatar_512': $authorID = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_author'); $meta_value = get_avatar( $authorID, 512); break; case 'num_comments': $text = $base->getVar($this->post, 'comment_count'); break; case 'cat_list': $use_taxonomies = false; $postCatsIDs = $base->getVar($this->post, 'post_category'); if(empty($postCatsIDs) && isset($this->post['post_type'])){ $postCatsIDs = array(); $obj = get_object_taxonomies($this->post['post_type']); if(!empty($obj) && is_array($obj)){ foreach($obj as $tax){ if($tax == 'post_tag') continue; $use_taxonomies[] = $tax; $new_terms = get_the_terms($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $tax); if(is_array($new_terms) && !empty($new_terms)){ foreach($new_terms as $term){ $postCatsIDs[$term->term_id] = $term->term_id; } } } } } /* 2.1.5 category max option */ if($adjustMax && is_array($postCatsIDs)) $postCatsIDs = array_slice($postCatsIDs, 0, $catmax, true); $text = $base->get_categories_html_list($postCatsIDs, $function, $separator, $use_taxonomies); break; case 'tag_list': if(!$adjustMax) { $text = $base->get_tags_html_list($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $separator, $function); } else { $text = $base->get_tags_html_list($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $separator, $function, $catmax); } break; case 'taxonomy': if(!$adjustMax) { $text = $base->get_tax_html_list($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $taxonomy, $separator, $function); } else { $text = $base->get_tax_html_list($base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $taxonomy, $separator, $function, $catmax); } break; /* case 'iframe': print '

HELLO!

'; die(); break; */ default: $text = apply_filters('essgrid_post_meta_content', $text, $handle, $base->getVar($this->post, 'ID', ''), $this->post); break; } return $text; } /** * Retrieve the value of post elements */ public function get_custom_element_value($handle, $separator, $meta = ''){ $base = new Essential_Grid_Base(); $m = new Essential_Grid_Meta(); $text = ''; $text = $base->getVar($this->layer_values, $handle, ''); if($text == '' && $meta != '') $text = $base->getVar($this->layer_values, $meta, ''); if(intval($text) > 0){ //we may be an image from the metas $custom_meta = $m->get_all_meta(false); if(!empty($custom_meta)){ foreach($custom_meta as $cmeta){ if($cmeta['handle'] == $handle){ if($cmeta['type'] == 'image'){ $img = wp_get_attachment_image_src($text, $this->media_sources_type); if($img !== false){ $text = $img[0]; //replace with URL } } break; } } } } return $text; } /** * Retrieve the value of event elements */ public function get_event_manager_value($handle){ $base = new Essential_Grid_Base(); $text = ''; switch($handle){ //check for event manager case 'event_start_date': break; case 'event_end_date': break; case 'event_start_time': break; case 'event_end_time': break; case 'event_event_id': break; case 'event_location_name': break; case 'event_location_slug': break; case 'event_location_address': break; case 'event_location_town': break; case 'event_location_state': break; case 'event_location_postcode': break; case 'event_location_region': break; case 'event_location_country': break; } return $text; } /** * Retrieve the value of woocommerce elements */ public function get_woocommerce_value($meta, $separator, $catmax = false){ $text = ''; if(isset($this->post['ID'])){ if(Essential_Grid_Woocommerce::is_woo_exists()){ $base = new Essential_Grid_Base(); $m = new Essential_Grid_Meta(); /* 2.1.5 category max option */ $adjustMax = false; if($meta === 'wc_categories') { if(!empty($catmax) && $catmax !== '-1' && is_numeric($catmax) && intval($catmax) > 0) { $catmax = intval($catmax); $adjustMax = true; } } if($adjustMax) { $text = Essential_Grid_Woocommerce::get_value_by_meta($this->post['ID'], $meta, $separator, $catmax); } else { $text = Essential_Grid_Woocommerce::get_value_by_meta($this->post['ID'], $meta, $separator); } } } return $text; } } What to do when your love story falls apart - GGG - Dear Alyne

What to do when your love story falls apart – GGG

This post was originally published in the Facebook group Girls Gone Global (by Dear Alyne) and written by Naila Mahsud. Thank you Naila for the contribution!

Open Topic Sunday

Hello beautiful girls of GGG. Bear with me for some time because my story is a little long. Haha.

I am 24 years old now, from Pakistan. So basically till the age of 17/18, I was living an anti-social life mostly studying and guarding my dreams – I have always wanted to be a politician. At the age of 18, I got married even though I was number 4th and my elder sisters were not married, but Raheel’s family liked me a lot so they wanted me to get married so did my family because we had really good family terms with them.

I initially resisted but finally said yes to the marriage. From the moment I got engaged to Raheel, we started to fall in love. He fell madly in love with me and would do anything for me. He treated me like his kid and never let anyone say anything bad to me and would appreciate and encourage me. We got married in December 2012 and we became inseparable. Madly in love. Just like Romeo and Juliet.

One year and one month into the marriage, he left this world in seconds. One moment we were hugging, and the other moment everybody was screaming. My love had a sudden cardiac arrest. We had just come back from Dubai and the dirt from his shoes was still on the wooden floor. His shoes were there.

Words won’t do justice for what I felt. I felt dead just moving. My heart was on fire and I would actually feel pain in my chest. But I kept going. I held my heart in one hand and did all other things with the other. I started going to the university again 7 months after he passed away.

It was unbearably difficult but I said to myself: ‘Naila, do you want to live all your life people sympathizing with you or do you want to live not only survive’. I knew what my answer was.

Trust me, these past 5 years have been terribly difficult from bearing with the pain to the property issues to continuing my graduation. I graduated last year with honors, second upper class, in International Relations. And the dream I talked to you all about? Politics. Yes, I strive every day to come an inch closer to my dream of getting into politics or anything near it. And I will achieve it because that’s the dream I have always known. That’s what I have always wanted to be.

‘When you want something, the entire universe conspires to get you close to it’. I have strong faith and determination that I WILL achieve what I have always dreamt of. In spite of EVERYTHING, and I’ll tell you, things have been unbearable, if I can still hold on to my dreams, so can you all, girls.

Don’t give up. There’s no harm in falling. Fall. Make mistakes. But then rise up again and be the biggest lover of yourself. Don’t be self-destructive. Do everything in your capacity to make things better for yourself. Be your own best friend and best critic.

Love from beautiful Pakistan

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