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Topic: Relationship Saturday
My name is Syeda. i am from Pakistan but currently i am living in Dubai and working in one of the top automobile companies.
I got married at the age of sixten with a 31 yrs old man.it was a forced arrange marriage.It was a violent relationship. At the beginning of the marriage, the first half of the first year, there weren’t any episodes of violence or abuse.
After half a year, things started to happen.sometimes he would have outbursts in front of people he used to beat me on my face and, somehow, I still believed it was better for me to stay because i was so young and no one was there support or protect me even my family pushed me back.
Physical abuse gradually became more intense.
When you’re in the relationship for a long time, you lose your identity. You believe in the lies you were told. We don’t believe in our ability to live an independent life.
One of the things abusers tend to do is to isolate us from the community as well, so it’s harder for us to seek help in many ways and over time, we believe in their lies as i did.And then, there is the shame factor in the whole abuse. So we find it very hard to open up to anyone.
Then i found out that i could leave.it was when he beated me badly and i had my 3rd miscarriage and i was in hospital.i made a decision to get out of this hell.i started working on myself, completed my study groomed myself.it took 5 years.
Finally i was ready to take stand against my family and society.i moved to Dubai.i found Dubai one of the safest places on earth for a woman to live alone and to achieve your goals.
I started a job for my living.it was not easy but i did not gave up.then i met with a guy.soon we became very good friends.he helped me to get divorce.he helped me on every single step.
finally horrible phase of my lifr came to an end.he and his family specially his mother always stood by my side.she supported me emotionally alot.
One day that guy purposed me and i said YES.
We got married on 14 Feb 2017
I love you Adeel
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Relationship saturday
My name is Syeda. i am from Pakistan but currently i am living in Dubai and working in one of the top automobile companies.
I got married at the age of sixten with a 31 yrs old man.it was a forced arrange marriage.It was a violent relationship. At the beginning of the marriage, the first half of the first year, there weren’t any episodes of violence or abuse.
After half a year, things started to happen.sometimes he would have outbursts in front of people he used to beat me on my face and, somehow, I still believed it was better for me to stay because i was so young and no one was there support or protect me even my family pushed me back.
Physical abuse gradually became more intense.
When you’re in the relationship for a long time, you lose your identity. You believe in the lies you were told. We don’t believe in our ability to live an independent life.
One of the things abusers tend to do is to isolate us from the community as well, so it’s harder for us to seek help in many ways and over time, we believe in their lies as i did.And then, there is the shame factor in the whole abuse. So we find it very hard to open up to anyone.
Then i found out that i could leave.it was when he beated me badly and i had my 3rd miscarriage and i was in hospital.i made a decision to get out of this hell.i started working on myself, completed my study groomed myself.it took 5 years.
Finally i was ready to take stand against my family and society.i moved to Dubai.i found Dubai one of the safest places on earth for a woman to live alone and to achieve your goals.
I started a job for my living.it was not easy but i did not gave up.then i met with a guy.soon we became very good friends.he helped me to get divorce.he helped me on every single step.
finally horrible phase of my lifr came to an end.he and his family specially his mother always stood by my side.she supported me emotionally alot.
One day that guy purposed me and i said YES.
We got married on 14 Feb 2017
I love you Adeel
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